Holidays can be very stressful, even for the most organized person with gifts to buy, cards to write, holiday cooking, and more. With a little preplanning and delegation, however, you can lessen the stress of the season and enjoy the holidays to the fullest.

Caregivers may find the holidays especially stressful, when combined with caring for family and loved ones. Combine these unique stressors with someone who is also employed in a caregiving role (health-care providers, for example) and there are simply not enough hours in the day.

Caring for yourself

First and foremost, self -care is not selfish care! This is a very important concept that many healthcare providers have a difficult time accepting. We are used to giving 110% of ourselves at work and at home- anything less would feel odd. Yet, studies have shown that in order to give your best, you have to be your best.

As they say in the airline industry, in case of a change in altitude, when the oxygen masks drop down put the mask on yourself first before aiding the small children. The same thought process applies to caregivers. In order to care for others- family, friends, job assignments- you must first take care of yourself.

Self -care tips

When it comes to self-care, the most important thing you can do is realize your choice of care tactics is very personal and individualized. What works for others may not work for you, and no one should try to convince you otherwise. The following list of self -care tips is generic, so pick a few to help you relax and rejuvenate.

• Carve small meaningful “me” time into your calendar. Hold yourself accountable to these appointments as you would any other obligation.
• Get to the gym and do a quick workout. It’s a great stress reliever, burning off calories as well as any negative feelings or stressors.
• Get moving! If the gym scene isn’t for you, just start walking. Whether it be taking a walking break at work, or an early morning walk, there is something therapeutic about being out in nature. If inclement weather is an issue, you could head to the local indoor mall (although the crowds this time of year may cause stress). Choose wisely.
• Self-pampering. Whether it be a massage, manicure, or pedicure, there is a feeling of indulgence, which is well worth the time and money. Short on cash? Check out any holiday specials or 2 for 1 deals.
• Reconnect with family and friends. Its time to make that long overdue phone call or write that letter. The time alone dedicated will keep you focused and should leave everyone involved feeling happier this holiday season.
• This highly recommended activity has been known to help focus a person, delving into feelings, desires, stressors and more. Journaling can also help focus one into mindfulness, where you can become aware of your surroundings and act accordingly.

Health and well-being

One of the most important things we can do as a caregiver is to not fall into the holiday rut of overeating and under exercising. With abundant food everywhere, and parties at work and at home, it is quite easy to eat and drink mindlessly. Use some of these tips to make holiday celebrations healthier:

• Incorporate fresh fruits and vegetables in every meal. Going to someone’s party? Offer to bring a fruit or veggie tray. Ensure you have healthier options within reach.
• Lean meats, fish, whole grains. Incorporate more of these into your meals around the holidays and you will feel healthier and won’t be tempted by other less healthy options being served.
• Limits on alcohol. Although you may think that an extra glass of alcohol may be just the thing you need to relax, the truth is alcohol is truly empty calories and has no nutritious value. If you choose to drink, drink sensibly. Alternate drinks like wine spritzers saves calories and more. Sparkling waters with fruit segments are even better, keeping you hydrated with a dose of vitamins and minerals.

Another topic in the news lately is the importance of sleep. Without proper sleep, we start the day in a suboptimal state. In order for a caregiver to maximize their sleep, the following “sleep hygiene” suggestions are suggested. The recommended optimal sleep is 7-9 hours nightly. The room should be free of distractions (television, computers, cell phones), and windows should have dark curtains to block sunlight out.

When it comes to the caregiver and the holidays, remember less maybe indeed be more. Delegate tasks when appropriate, share responsibilities when possible, and above all else, focus on what’s important: the gathering of family and friends celebrating the year gone by.

Happy holidays!

Maureen Sullivan-Tevault, RN, MS, BSN, CEN, CDE

www.MaureenSullivanRN.com