Being single on Valentine’s Day is harder than ever when we live in a world with constant access to other people’s lives. Through social media you see every couple posting cheesy photos with poems, so it is hard not to feel like the loneliest person on earth. If this is another year of being alone on Valentine’s Day or your first Valentine’s Day single in a while, it can be a very difficult day. While everyone is affected by this holiday differently, you will probably feel a moment of sadness even while staying strong. 

You may feel like the only single person on earth, or more specifically in your friend group, but there are millions of people out there feeling the same way. And one of those people may be in your life someday since life doesn’t always go as planned. You can only choose to find happiness in the day, as opposed to focusing on what you are missing in your life. 

How To Spend Valentine’s Day When You’re Single

1. Avoid Romantic Shows and Triggers

On Valentine’s Day, there will definitely be a plethora of romantic comedies on TV. From Someday Maybe to The Notebook, watching those movies will only make you focus on your feelings of loneliness. I suggest watching a movie that has nothing to do with love or romance, possibly a sci-fi movie, horror movie, or comedy (not romantic comedy). Distract your mind so you will be focusing on something else entirely. 

2. Make Other Plans

If you have friends or siblings who are single and in the same situation, spend time with them. You can eat fast food for the night, as restaurants will be flooded with couples. Treat it like a normal Friday night, you can binge-watch your favorite show, go bowling, karaoke, the gym, etc. If you are the type of person to fixate on things, it is best to have other plans that night.

3. Treat Yourself

On Valentine’s Day make it all about you. If you have been holding out on buying that new sweater or shoes, this is the day to feel that rush from a purchase. Even if you decide to return it next week, do something for yourself. This can also include getting your nails done, getting your hair done, etc. A great way to feel good about yourself is by exercising, it is the best way to take care of yourself and your health. 

4. Do Something Kind For Someone Else

With all the generosity on this holiday, doing something nice for others will improve your self-worth and self-esteem. This could be donating to charity or doing volunteer work. In addition to doing something kind for your family and friends. Buying that new item your mother needs or your friend’s need will really make their day. You also feel a boost of happiness from being selfless. 

5. Ignore The Holiday

If you really must do this, it is certainly an option. For people who feel really negatively affected by the holiday, it can help to treat it as a normal day. Don’t have higher expectations than your average day. Maintain your regular schedule of work, gym, etc. You can clean the house or organize your space, do something productive to keep your mind off of the day. The best way to do this is by spending time with your feline or canine friend(s) who is always there!